Whenever you feel guilty when you reach a success or a high point in your career, and you feel like a fraud and soon others going to find you, ‘yes’ you are going through Imposter syndrome.
For some people, giving themselves a pat on the back is comfortably typical behavior. When they reach their goal, they have no problem praising themselves. They can graciously acknowledge what they have achieved and accept a sense of pride that comes along with it.
When the compliments and commendations begin streaming in, you will feel like a fake, a phony, and a fraud. You won’t feel like your praise is well deserved.
If the above scenario sounds like you, you might have imposter syndrome — also known as imposter phenomenon or fraud syndrome. It is marked by a strong feeling of incompetence; if people see you in a positive light, it is only because you have them fooled.
Who will get this syndrome
Imposter syndrome is more likely to infect people with a level of high achievement — it does not strike someone working a mundane job. Instead, the condition generally affects people of higher status who have achieved some level of success and power in their life. These people get into good colleges and have good jobs.
You may think imposter syndrome is synonymous with low self-esteem, but it appears that the two issues exist on separate continuums. Someone with high self-esteem could still have imposter syndrome, and just because someone has low self-esteem does not mean they have imposter syndrome.
How to come out of it
Do you think you have imposter syndrome based on the information above? Do you give yourself enough credit? Do you appreciate your successes? Or do you think it is only a matter of time until your world comes crashing down due to your own incompetence? If so, you might have imposter syndrome.
Come off it
Usually I feel like a fraud when I think I’m more important than I am. When you feel like a fraud it’s in relation to some perfection that never actually existed. Letting go of some of your excess self-importance will go a long way in helping you feel less like a fake.
Let Others Know
Whatever your goal, you will improve your odds of success by including others. Let the trusted and reliable supports in your life know what you are facing. Let them know what struggles you might confront on the way and how they can help.
Focus on providing value
I feel like a fraud when I’m concerned about myself. What will they think of me? If I fail they’ll shun me. I don’t know as much as that other guy, I have no right to say anything on the topic. Blah blah blah. The fastest way to get over feeling like a fraud is to genuinely try to help someone else.
Treat things as business
Start treating your art as a business. Not to the point that you start making crap because it’s what people like, but to the point that you are honestly trying to serving your area of the market. In a business, if a product doesn’t sell, you stop making it.